I signed off from this blog around nine months ago now, and during that time, I had a chance to think about a lot of things.
I thought about the blog, its purpose in my life and in my interactions with the world.
I thought about what drove me to start this blog, and what caused me to question its veracity.
I questioned many of the motivational factors that drive my activity, both professionally and among my avocations.
I questioned whether or not the world needed this blog.
In short, I questioned everything about the wisdom of keeping this project going. In most measures, it is easy to identify this as clearly a hobby. I am not reaching a wide audience. I am not being recognized as a result of these posts as any type of expert. The time that it takes to produce a quality post takes large amounts of time away from other ventures, and I really began to wonder if it was all worth it.
During all of this time, I had several candid discussions with my family, especially my adult children, about the blog. I shared with them some of how I was feeling, some of what was making me wonder if this was worth any time. And as we talked about things, I found myself getting some answers to my questions and concerns. And most of those questions revolved around the focus and ease of access on this blog.
I began this as an exercise in writing about finding adventure in everyday life. I believed then, and I still believe today, that while journeying far beyond the boundaries of home can lead to amazing and once in a lifetime adventures, one can find adventures close to home.
I later began to wonder at the number of men’s magazines that were directed at helping men enjoy nice things, enjoy the good life, but few about how to enjoy nice things while living wisely and on a budget.
Still later, I began to take notice of how many parenting magazines seemed to be focused on helping mothers be better homemakers but few were dedicated to helping father’s be better heads of households.
All of these realizations drove me to change the direction of the blog.
But they also caused me to wonder how to respect and represent them all in my posts.
I have come to the conclusion that all of these ideas, from intelligent adventuring to being a wise head of household, are wound up in what I am calling The Everyday Dad.
Everyday dads have to put on their best every day and go to work, giving their best in pursuit of goals and objectives that are often not their own, in order to provide income and stability for a family. Often they do this in partnership with a spouse who also needs to work and toil outside the home just to make ends meet. When the work day is done, the everyday dad comes home and works to handle some projects around the house, like painting or car repairs or home maintenance. He often tries to play with his kids and share with them some of the appreciation that he has developed for a sports team or a particular performer or the lessons that he has learned along the way ofhis experience in daily life. Finally when the kids are asleep, he strives to be a lover to dedicated spouse, often also exhausted from the second shift of shared househould duties. In some cases, the everyday dad works a second job (as I have through much of my married life), an experience which makes all of the other activities that much more stressful and precious and precarious.
But everyday dads are also funny, and passionate, and dedicated, and want to give their family nice things, pleasant memories and a bedrock of values to guide them through the difficult times that are sure to come into their lives.
My children helped me discover this about myself. And that is the journey that I want to now share with anyone who wants to read. Likely it will be a small audience. But small or large, antagonistic or supportive, share I will.
I will share the mundane, the practical, the exciting and the transcendent. I will share the funny and heartbreaking and the inspiring and the melancholy. I will share the things that make me a better everyday dad and the ways in which I fall short.
I’m going to add some pages to this blog, hopefully in a way to combine some of the other blogs that I have been working with in the past. Perhaps one day i can manage several blogs, but right now, managing one is plenty difficult for me!
I hope you enjoy the new journey. I’m grateful to have you along!